Some skills are essential to success, but are never taught in school. A prime example is how to give and receive feedback. For the most part, we know when it’s done well: it feels natural, productive, and humbling. And we definitely know when it’s NOT done well: we leave feeling indignant and criticized. So what makes feedback good feedback? We […]
How is coaching different from mentoring?
One of the most common questions I get as a coach is: How is coaching different from mentoring? I’ve been a mentor, mentee, coach, and coachee. Here are key differences I’ve observed. A mentor: Has special knowledge in your interest area Shares their personal experience and expertise Listens to your challenges and gives you advice Speaks to […]
Faster isn’t always better. How to slow down so you don’t burn out.
You might get a rush from speeding through tasks, especially those that you don’t enjoy. (Dishes and grocery store lineups, anyone?) But there comes a point when faster isn’t better. Your work, health, and relationships can suffer. Sometimes, you need to slow down so you don’t burn out. And do more in the long run! First, distinguish […]
How to ask for more time at work
It’s important to know how to ask for more time in a professional setting. But speaking up can be scary. Your inner critic will likely question: Will my boss think I’m incompetent? Will my coworkers think I’m lazy? Is there something wrong with me for being so slow? First, know that your fear exaggerates urgency. What you think needs […]
Resources to help you choose love over fear
[Part 3 of a series on Fear | Read 1 and 2] Choose love over fear. Looks great on a t-shirt. Catchy as a hashtag. But how do you do it in real life? The following resources are meant to get you thinking about how to face fear with more courage, compassion, and love. Jot them down, store them […]
Scared about work? Short and long term strategies for facing fears
[Part 2 of a series on Fear | Read 1 and 3] If you’re purpose-driven, you likely take work seriously. You want your work to make a difference in the world. With so much pressure placed on your career, it’s easy to be filled with self doubt and fears: Am I doing the best job I can do? When […]
Followed your dreams and terrified? Recognize and name your fears.
[Part 1 of a series on Fear | Read 2 and 3] You’ve chosen to follow your dreams! You’ve handed in your resignation letter. You’ve said goodbye to your coworkers. You’ve fielded every “What’s next?” question with a brave smile and a generic “I’m not sure yet but I’m excited for this adventure.” Then you go home, collapse on your […]